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My ex broke up with me 1.5 month ago.I completed 13 days of no contact. On 11th day my ex send me email relating to our studies. Those articles are helpful to me. I don’t know why he is thinking to help me. And his email showed me that he is very much concentrating on career and forgot about me. I am angry but wanna thank him for courtesy sake. Can i thank him??
You’re ok. You can thank him but don’t make it personal or begin to engage in a personal conversation. In other words just keep it professional. A simple thank you will do.
If he try’s to start a personal conversation politely tell him that you need your space for now
I thanked my ex to his mail. We started discussing about our studies. I indirectly showed him that i forgot about breakup,and started concentrating on my career. We did not discuss any matter except about our career. I understood that my ex is not interested in relationship and he wants to concentrate on career. Now should i start NC from beginning,or should i maintain professional contact with him like helping him and taking help from him..
Hi Lavana
I think it would be best for you unless you absolutely have to, stay No Contact. I read your other thread and some of the reasons you listed for the reason your Ex broke up with you was because of excess emotions, over thinking and insecurity. By going No Contact for a period you are demonstrating to your Ex that you are secure and not needy. If you continue to contact him even for work/studies reasons he may not see that change in you. Give him some space for a bit.
Hope this helps
Please help mee.. Should i start my NC rule from beginning. How to ignore my ex when he is talking about studies and trying to help me?
Hi Lavanya, talking to your ex during NC whether for studies or other reason is cheating LOL… Unless there’s an emergency you shouldn’t talk to your ex during NC, this period is exclusive for you PERIOD! But so that you don’t come across as the B**ch you should let your ex know that you need time and space, unless he’s willing to hire you as a professional tutor $50/hr hahaha… jj, Seriously, he can’t use you for his studies and get you confused like that, you be on top of this and take time out for yourself! Let him deal with his own issues, You’ll support your ‘friends’ sure, but you’ll only help your BOYFRIEND who is committed to you with studies, Cappish? 😉 … (Let this be a lesson for me too hahaha)… good luck hun, start NC properly and let him know by text you’re taking time if he texts you…
Hey,
Your ex hasn’t forgotten about you.you shouldn’t break NC.Follow the plan and continue it for 1-2 months.make positive changes in your life and focus on yourself.
Use social media to show that you are having a great time and you are doing something about your goals in your personal life.that’s really attractive.Here’s a checklist for ending no contact.
-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.Concentrate on your life,make positive changes,follow the plan and you do have a chance.
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