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It’s the fifth day since I haven’t spoken with him. Last time we spoke he just said he’s in love with his new girlfriend. I feel like she can possibly be a rebound, but another part of me feel like she’s not. He hasn’t contact me and he blocked my calls.
When he’s in a committed relationship he don’t let no one get in between it. So that’s why I feel like I’m never going to win him back.
Everything in our relationship was good except my attitude and behavior towards him because I got so comfortable in our relationship that I felt like he would never replace me , but he did now I’m stuck looking stupid wondering if I should fight for our relationship or just move on because I honestly thought I found the one person I want to spend my life with.
We’ve been broken up for almost a month and been dating for almost two years about to move in together. He’s been dating this girl for about 3 weeks or so(coworker)and honestly I think she’s using him because she just went through a breakup with her ex. But anyways I have so much on my mind so I’m just rumbling. But during our breakup I was pregnant and he was there for me I guess even though he was with the girl , but he just seemed like he cared about her feelings more than mines when I was the one pregnant with his child. We had sex because I begged him and begged and he gave in and that day we had a real connection we felled asleep in each other arms. He even told me that it felt like the first time we met and it did, but later that night he went to see her and than told me nothing will work between us and I know it’s because of te new girl. So anyways I had a miscarraige we talked about it but he didn’t even come over to check up on me so I was so depressed by everything.
So I started sending him messages about how I felt and he blocked me. I really think he don’t want nothing to do with me, but he use to tell me all the time that I was the best gf he had because I had an attitude a lot but I was the type to try make moments feel like we were in the movies but I guess te stress of us trying to move and my family just put a toll on our relationship. I just wish I can hang in there and follow theses steps but it’s been very hard because I know he’s with this girl..and he may be falling in love with her because he even said he have a better connection with her even though they were only talking for two weeks. I don’t know I just had to vent.. Any advice will help thanksIt gets easier. The urges are very hard to resist at first. You’ll have some good days where you barely think of them, and then other days where you’re obsessing and don’t feel like doing anything. There will be highs and lows, but overall your baseline will trend up.
In the first two or so weeks she was occupying most of my thoughts and I cried a lot. Now I’m on day 24, and it’s been at least a week since I cried. I still haven’t fully recovered, but I’m making progress.
I don’t really even want her back at this point, because of how things ended. But staying in contact with her was only doing me more harm and this site helped me get out of the cycle we were in.
Hey, You’ll be ok. I know it seams so hopeless right now, but you will be ok and you need to do NC if you want to have the chance to get him back someday. I am on day 18 of NC and I still think of my ex every day, but it gets a bit easier each day as I learn to cope with it. I know it is so hard, but the NC is the only way. Your mind will eventually clear up and you can get back your life and live on your own terms again. I am getting there and you will do. You got this. We are all rooting for you!
Thanks for the advice.I really appreciate it.I almost slipped and looked at his girlfriend instagram and Facebook but I knew it was going to hurt me more.I hope it does get easier, because some days I’m just an emotional wreck but again thanks 🙂
7 days of not hearing her voice. 7 days of not seeing her. I cried. A lot. But I felt better after and kept a positive mindset. Better to stay away and have a fighting chance, than try hard now and it ruining the possibility.
Hang in there! It’s hard, but the end result will be beneficial if not amazing
Here’s a quote I just read that might be helpful:
Remember how far you’ve come, not just how far you have to go.
You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.
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